Here's her story along with life application questions on how to keep the real meaning of Christmas.
THE GIFT OF CHRISTMAS
PAST
By Marsha Hubler
Carrying two plastic storage boxes packed to
their limits with Christmas paraphernalia, Amber quickly placed the containers
next to four others stacked in the center of the room and took a deep breath. Hands
on hips, she studied the barren eight-foot artificial blue spruce that her husband
Earl, the night before, had mounted in its favorite corner, the niche where it
had displayed its splendor the last thirty holiday seasons.
“We sure have our work cut out for us,” Amber said
as she relaxed on the sofa next to her mother.
“We’re going to
decorate the tree now.” Amber’s gaze focused on the frail likeness of the woman
she had known, and loved, all her life. The woman who had brought her into the
world, had loved her sacrificially, had introduced her to Jesus, had come to live
with her ten years ago…who now had Alzheimer’s.
“What are you
looking at?” Amber hoped this time her mother might focus enough on the
question to give an answer.
“A bird,” her
mother said convincingly. “It’s building a nest.”
Amber hunched next
to the wheelchair and slipped her arm around her mother’s bony shoulders.
“Where’s the bird, Mom?” she asked. “I don’t see it.”
“There!” her
mother’s shaky voice said as she pointed her bony finger. “Way up in the top of
that tree. Do you see it?”
“Yes, I see it.
It’s very pretty.” Amber hated that she had lied to her mother once again, but
the last six months had proven that trying to reason with the woman’s
deteriorating mind was an exercise in futility. Amber glanced outside at the
six inches of fresh snow and crystal icicles that sparkled with the noon day’s
sun. It was that special time of year again when the house was transformed, both
inside and out, into a palace of glitter by the season’s charm. The wind blew
wisps of snow that only added to the beauty of God’s latest creation, a
landscape garbed in a lacy robe of delicate white.
Amber gave her
mother a gentle hug as they both stared out the window. Amber’s eyes moistened as
memories of her childhood flooded her mind. She studied all the boxes…waiting
to take her into those wonderful Christmases from the past…begging for one more
glance.
“Well, we better
get started!” Amber said, grabbing one of the boxes. Carefully she pried off
the lid to the container labeled “Tree Ornaments” and found a set of antique porcelain balls, the deepest of blues,
which stirred one of her earliest memories as a child. Those years were so difficult when Dad had no time for God or us.
Amber picked up
one of the balls and held it for her mother to see. “Mom, do you remember all
these blue balls? Remember the year we bought that monstrous tree, the one Dad
despised as soon as he wrestled it into the trunk of our old Chevy? He drove
home in a huff and threw the tree in one of the corners in the den, leaving the
decorating to the whims of two starry-eyed females, who somehow still found joy
in the midst of such ugliness. Remember the coal and bucket—and how hard it was
to balance that heavy pine? I thought that tree was the most beautiful thing I
had ever seen because you and I had decorated it together.”
“Yes, I remember,”
Mother said, her stare reaching far beyond the ball.
“This same blue
ball also reminds me of the year Dad managed to remain sober. Somewhere you got
the idea to have a “different” kind of tree, so the three of us hiked in the
woods until we found just the right one—a maple, not too tall, barren of every
leaf. After we dragged it home and Dad mounted it in a bucket, we wrapped each
limb and every thin branch with white cotton. We thought we’d never complete
the task! But, oh, how gorgeous it was when you and I dressed it in blue lights
and blue Christmas balls. Do you remember all the friends and relatives who dropped
by that year just to marvel at the sight?”
“Yes, I remember.”
“And, Mom, you’ll
never guess what else I found as I prowled around the basement. That suede cowgirl
jacket with all the fringe! Remember how excited I was to open my present that
year? I had dreamed about that jacket for months.”
“You always loved
horses, didn’t you?”
“Yes, and I still
do.” Amber placed the ball back in its resting place and lifted out a small
tattered, taped and re-taped cardboard box that held a special childhood
memory.
“Mom, look what
else I found—your miniature manger scene. Isn’t this the one you bought in 1950
when you opened your beauty shop, and from that first year on you always put
this in your shop window at Christmastime? Would you believe that every piece
is still intact?” Amber sat on the sofa and carefully searched through the box
until she found the baby in his manger. She held up the piece for her mother to
see. “Do you remember this?”
“Yes, I remember.
That’s the baby Jesus.”
“And Jesus is our
Savior too,” Amber said, walking to another container and opening the lid.
Wrapped in white tissue paper, right on the top, rested a special ornament.
Amber lifted out the ball, removed the paper, and went back to her mother’s
side.
“Look, Mom, I
found our favorite ornament of all—the one with the picture of our first
Christmas together after Dad was saved—our first holiday as a real family. Do
you remember the church service on Christmas Eve that the three of us sat
together for the first time ever? Dad sang at the top of his lungs with a huge
smile on his face. At last we could celebrate Christ’s birth as one.”
“Yes,” Mother said
with glassy eyes. “I remember.”
“It’s hard to
believe that Dad’s in heaven five years already, celebrating with Jesus, the
one who made it all possible. Do you miss Dad at all?” Amber asked.
“Not too much,”
her mother said.
“Well, I miss him
at times like this. I sure could use his help today.”
“Yes, we sure
could.”
Amber shifted the
containers, searching for the one labeled “Candles.” She opened the box and
pulled out a faded yellow plastic candle with a red bulb, its base cracked, the
cord frayed and taped. That dilapidated old thing, more than anything else,
reminded her of her family’s home so long ago, a home that radiated with a
mother’s love. The spirit of past seasons had shone from that old light purer
than any other. Now, as a beacon of wonder, it brought another flow of memories
that reminded Amber of why this season was so special. It would be the last
she’d share with her mom.
Amber wiped a
stream of tears from her cheeks as she twisted on the red bulb and set it on
the windowsill. “Mom, look at the pretty candle. You had also bought that back
in the 50s, and you always placed it next to the manger scene in your shop. Do
you remember?”
“Yes, I remember,”
her mother said, her voice growing weary.
“We certainly have
a lot of memories, don’t we?” Vivid pictures of past Christmases filled Amber’s
heart and soul. She reflected again on her mother’s love and all the things she
had done to honor the Savior’s birth and make Christmas so special for a little
girl whose spirit had been so enriched then and now. One last time.
Amber hunched beside
her mother and caressed the woman’s wrinkled hands. In silence they stared at
the candle.
“I love that candle,” Mother finally said.
“I do too,” Amber
said, tears trickling down her face. “I love you, Mom.”
“And I love you.”
LIFE APPLICATION
With the obvious “war
on Christmas” by the secular world every year, we Christians need to take a
stand for righteousness, especially during the holiday season. Christmas is a
wonderful time for us to “remember” traditions our parents have passed down or for
us to establish and maintain our own customs for future generations. Proverbs
22:28 reminds us to “remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have
set.” Rehearsing a tradition steeped
with Godly principles during the Christmas season is the best gift any of us
could receive from our family members who claim the Lord Jesus Christ as their
Savior. And what better gift could we bestow on those who follow behind than to
do the same, thus remembering that the true meaning of Christmas is Christ’s
birth.
For those who find
themselves in the role of caregiver, Jesus reminds us in Jude 22: “Of some have
compassion, making the difference.” Although caregiving is an extremely
strenuous job, the rewards from our heavenly Father are great: “And whosoever
shall give to drink unto one of these little ones a cup of water only in the
name of a disciple, verily I say unto you, he shall in no wise lose his reward”
(Matthew 10:42).
The days may grow
long and weary, but the love shown will make a difference in the needy person’s
life. And God will never forsake those requiring extra strength from above to
face such a difficult task. Our Lord promises us with these encouraging words:
“But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount
up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk,
and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31).
Run the race,
fellow Christian. Pass on those precious traditions to those who come behind,
and love that needy soul with a compassion that only Christ can give.
Thanks, Karen, for posting my story, which so closely resembles how it was here at the Hubler house during my mother's last six months. She's gone over two years already, but I still miss her. She's with the Lord, enjoying Christmas in heaven.
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas, everyone! Marsha
What a wonderful story Marsha. Thank you for the words at the end too. You see, I am blessed to be the mom to my son, who is now 18, and is severely autistic and nonverbal. Words like that, especially from scripture, are so reassuring to me. I know that God gives us "caretakers" extra strength for our tasks. I also believe that those "needy souls" deserve our love and compassion, just as Jesus would have offered to them!
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful New Year!